Your mirror knows you better than you know yourself. Mine told me for several months that the jeans I loved and thought were adorable, really didn't look good. I ignored my mirror, even tried using a mirror in different lighting thinking surely that one would tell me what I wanted to hear. Eventually, to the goodwill-pile went the jeans. Note: when jeans don't fit, it's probably the JEANS that are at fault. Throw out the jeans. Don't self-loathe and mentally scrap the YOU.